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| Online Edition | Vol. 3 No. 9 Shabān 1419/December 1998 |
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| Editorial | Inside this Edition | |||||||||||||
| Virtue & Value
Imagine you have three years to live. Life today is so
short, illness so common and sudden deaths due to crime, is a reality. How will these
three years be planned and spent. Some of us will take the leisure route and try to enjoy
every little pleasure, everything untried before in sensual and material pleasure. Some
others will donate everything they have to charity. They will want the generosity to be
their lasting gift, in name and fame. Others will vigorously throw themselves into
charitable work, hoping that improving the lives of others, their own after-life will be
secured in heaven. There are others who will meticulously pay-off their outstanding debts
whilst ensuring that their own accounts receivable, are not forgotten. Many of us will
ensure that those we leave behind are well cared for. To this end, we will use the time we
have, to properly plan, advise and direct the resources for our inheritors. Many of us wit
dash off to the haramain for Haj and 'Umra in the hope that whatever
happens, this ibadat will certainly weigh heavy in their favour.
What will they say? Now for a moment imagine, your obituary. What will the people say? As they are walking from your fresh grave, how quickly will you be forgotten? After doing some, or all of the above, How many of us will reflect upon seeking the pardon of those we have harmed? Harm is by omission and commission. Those that we have harmed by our tongue, in their presence or their absence; those whose character we have thrown mud on; those who have been denied their fair due. In addition to this, will we reflect upon the values and virtues we are leaving behind? To what extent are we leaving behind a legacy of sound values? Whilst we take every precaution to leave behind sufficient material provisions for our near and dear ones - what legacy of values, what inheritance of virtue are we bequeathing? Many of us will pass on a particular skill of this or that to our children, many others will teach them a trick or two about survival in the world, others will impress upon their children the benefit of their experience and the way of the world... but how many of us will leave for his child knowledge that will regulate his behaviour that will protect him, and certainly in belief that will carry him. If we as parents, do not bequeath enduring values - then no one will do it for us. Our tensions, our stress ... even our hypocrisy and dual standards we apply, are passed on to our children. You can not hide much from a child, for sooner or later, the role model of yourself will be tested. Consider the worldview expressed by the famous sufi, Hatim al Assam" "I came to realise that my sustenance will not be consumed by anyone other than myself, so I should not be concerned about it; I came to realise that my work will not be done by anyone other than myself so I must be busy about it; I came to realise that death may come suddenly and unexpectedly, so I must not waste time to forestall it; I came to realise that I am in the sight of Allāh Ta'āla in every condition and circumstance, so I must behave with due modesty under His Gaze." What if three years of time is reduced to three days ... or even three hours? How different will our reaction be? After all, when we pause and reflect on our life we realise that yesterday is but a date in history; tomorrow is just a hopeful expectation - today is the only day we have, therefore today is an opportunity and a time for action! If Yesterday is a caution and Tomorrow a risk - Today, is all you have! Enduring values cannot be ingrained in the psyche of our children in just one day - but if Today is the opportune time, and Tomorrow the follow through, and our conduct a living example of those values - then three years or three hours will not matter, because the most enduring legacy of beautiful conduct in your child, will reap continuous reward for you in your qabr. No praiseworthy obituary of yourself will equal the praiseworthy values that your inheritor will carry within him. No amount of brief praise from your mourners will rival the rich legacy of praiseworthy values you instill in your child - and if this is not done, even thirty years before you meet your death, will not be sufficient time! |
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